What An ER Visit Taught Me About Cherishing My Children

“These kids are driving me crazy!”

If you are a mom, and unless you are Mother Theresa, I’m sure you’ve uttered (or screamed) these words out of frustration before. I know I have. Many times, in varying tones of voice.

The fighting, the messes, the mealtimes, the questions.

It gets to me sometimes. The never ending pull in every direction at once. I’ll even admit that some days I envy my husband that he gets to leave and spend time with actual, full-grown people.

And then something happens that gives me a reality check. I love these children. They are not frustrations and annoyances-they are gifts from God. I am so blessed to have them in my life, and blessed to be able to stay home with them each day.

On Sunday, I was with my sweet baby in the mother’s room of the nursery. I had just started nursing her when her whole body started shaking-from her head down to her toes. Almost like shivers, but more. I instinctively held her closer to my body until it stopped (which was probably about 5-10 seconds, but seemed like so much longer!) Immediately after, she fell asleep. I didn’t have much time to wonder what had happened, when she woke up and got right back to nursing, only to have the same thing happen again.

This time when it was over and she fell asleep, I got up and went to find my husband. A few of the ladies came over, and one of my dear friends whose little baby had had seizures shortly after birth advised me to take her in to Urgent Care. So I gave her instructions about teaching my Sunday School class and what to do with my older children after church, and my husband and I headed out. The Urgent Care couldn’t see my baby for a couple hours, so we waited at home until our appointment time.

By time we got to the Urgent Care, she had woken up and was back to her smiley self. The doctor checked her out and said she looked perfectly healthy, but wanted us to go to the ER, just in case. She had fallen off the couch the night before, and the doctor wanted to make sure that wasn’t the cause of the seizure.

At the ER, the doctors again said she looked perfectly healthy.

We were given instructions on certain symptoms to watch for over the next couple days. They explained that she could have a small bleed on her brain, caused by the fall, but it would likely resolve itself. It could also be nothing. We were told that in medical school there is a saying that, “Everyone is allowed one seizure in their lifetime.” Often times a small child will have an episode, and there is really no explanation. As long as it doesn’t happen again, there is nothing to worry about.

We are still praying that she doesn’t ever have a seizure again. Fortunately we are out of the danger zone for any injury from her fall. So if it was indeed caused by that, it appears to have resolved itself.

But I am reminded that it doesn’t always turn out so well.

There are parents everyday who say goodbye to their children for the last time.

There are parents whose children are permanently injured, or who are fighting cancer or other horrible diseases.

There are parents who live in fear that their children will be killed or taken by terrorists because of their faith.

I have no right to complain about having to getting to spend each day with my children. My healthy children. They are truly little miracles. And if I feel crazy with frustration, I need to check my heart, and remember that my life would be so empty without them.

My happy baby, back to her smiling self.

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  • Stacey Fowler

    We’ve been to the ER several times with my youngest because he has Reactive Airway Disease (like asthma, but for young kids) and I truly feel like this when I leave there.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Yes asthma is no fun. My oldest had asthma when she was younger, luckily she outgrew it by around age 8 or 9. Hopefully your son will outgrow his.

  • http://angiesangle.com Angie Agerter

    She is such a cutie pie. I am so glad you guys are out of the danger zone, scary stuff. When I watched kids in my home. We had one go blue and stop breathing. She turned out fine, but holy crap scary. It ended up she had a fever seziure and had a couple more in the next year and hasn’t had any since.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      How scary! At least hers wasn’t that bad. I really would have lost it! Glad to hear that she doesn’t have them anymore. Our bodies are crazy sometimes.

  • Melissa M. Miller

    A trip to the E.R. will definitely stir your emotions. Your story of a trip to the E.R. stirred mine. However, it’s still difficult to me to deal with the teenager stage, when you actually want to spend time with them, you do what they want to do, ask for 15 minutes of doing something with them that you enjoy and the world has ended. It hurts, but I guess I just have to cherish the moments and remember one day he’ll appreciate me more. My son is my EVERYTHING!!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Oh yes! The teenager stage is a whole other story. But you’re right, it will be over soon and I’m sure when he looks back he wil appreciate all you did for him.

  • http://www.kelseymferguson.com Kelsey Ferguson

    Oh, how scary! I’m glad everything is okay. I know I have been guilty, too, in wishing I could escape the house to converse and eat with grown people. There’s a really awesome website: GoShoutLove.com that features a different family with a terminally ill child each month. Supporting and following along with their stories has completely changed my outlook on my day-to-day life with my healthy kids. I understand your heart check, and thank you for this timely reminder!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Oh wow I don’t even know if I could read the stories in that web site. I get extremely emotional whenever children are involved. But thanks for sharing, I may have to pop over and show some support-on a strong day.

  • http://www.giveaways4mom.com/ Victoria H

    She is so adorable I am glad she is okay.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thank you!

  • aprilaakre

    such a great reminder. I know I have bad days with the kids. But you are right I do love the fact I get to spend every day with them and they are miracles.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Yes they sure are!

  • Amanda Dunville

    You have no idea how desperately I needed to read this post today. Not only about cherishing your time your children, but feeling jealous about your husband getting leave and have adult interaction too. This touch my heart to tears. Glad your sweet girl is doing well now. That had to have been very scary.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Yes it was scary but thank God it turned out well.

      I am so glad that you enjoyed this post :-) I know it can be so hard staying home every day but in reality I know I would miss my kids too much after just a couple days of working outside the home.

      Thank you very much for stopping by and commenting!

  • http://www.thedeliberatemom.com/ Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom

    So scary! Yes, we need to cherish our little ones… daily. This is such an important reminder.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.