Teen Pregnancy on Ask Away Friday

This week I swapped questions with Christy, who blogs over at Uplifting Families. Go check out her blog when you get a chance, and see some of the questions I asked her.

Teen Pregnancy on Ask Away Friday

1. I was a teen mom too. What was your biggest struggle as a teen mother? –I think for me it was the fact that I still really wanted to hang out and party with all my friends, but also be a mom. I was so young that I didn’t have any mom friends, and then when I did meet some they were into drugs and that started a whole other horrible chapter of my life. But I think the hardest part was feeling so torn-on one hand wanting to be a good mom and on the other hand wanting the freedom of not having a child. I remember really taking it personally that my friends were doing things without me, but the fact is I shouldn’t have because I was at a different chapter of my life. If I had been older and wiser it wouldn’t have mattered too much to me. Now I don’t even want to do anything except be around my kids, but back then I felt differently. It didn’t help that my daughter’s father was always running around partying and having his friends at our house all the time, drinking and doing all kinds of other things.

2. What is your number one advice to a teen mom? –Definitely to get involved with a  teen pregnancy support group or another group for young mothers and MAKE FRIENDS! Actually I should say, make friends with other mom’s that are doing a good job of taking care of their babies, not mom’s that are more concerned with boys and parties. Realize that your high school friends aren’t going to have as much in common as you anymore, and that is okay. Don’t take it personally that you drift apart from them. I had access to a parenting class for teen mom’s that my school made me go to each week, and also another group that met each week, but I only showed up. I didn’t want to associate with any of the other mom’s. I really wish I would have, because I might have saved myself and my daughter a lot of heartache if I hadn’t looked for friends in the wrong places. Being a teen mom can be a lonely place to be, but it doesn’t last forever! Soon everyone you know will start having babies, too.

3. I love that you wrote about “Rekindling Your Love”, such an important topic for couples with children. What is your favorite way to rekindle the love with your spouse? –When we can, we like to go out, and go walk around downtown and get coffee and gelato from our favorite places. We also spend some time together each evening after the kids are in bed, either talking or watching tv. He is very active, so working out together is another way that we like to spend our time, and that is a bonus because our gym has daycare! You can read some more on my blog post here.

4.If you could have a few nights away from your children (daycare is arranged and money isn’t an issue), where would you go and what would you do? –Drive up along the California coast to Mendocino, and stay in a bed and breakfast. We did this many years ago and are planning to again in November for our anniversary.

5. What is your favorite bible verse? Why? –This is a really hard question for me. There are so many verses and passages that speak to me, depending on what I am going through at the moment. I know lots of people have chosen a favorite “life verse,” and I have tried but just haven’t been able to. I think my favorite passage of all time would have to be Isaiah 53:1-6 because it is just so powerful.

“Who hath believed our report? and to whom is the arm of the Lord revealed?

For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of dry ground: he hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.

He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.

Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.”

-Isaiah 53:1-6 (KJV)

To think that this comes from the Old Testament, written hundreds of years before Jesus was born, and yet it describes His life so perfectly. I am so thankful everyday that He took my sins upon Himself, and because of that I have hope of Heaven!

6. What inspired you to homeschool your children? –I have a very good friend that homeschool’s her children, and I was interested because of that. I then decided I would homeschool my son for preschool, but we were still planning to enroll him in school for Kindergarten. Somewhere in that year, God ignited a spark in me that loved teaching my children at home, and now I couldn’t imagine it any other way. My oldest is not homeschooled, she goes to a private school at our church. She was already in 6th grade when I started homeschooling my son, and I wanted her to come home to be homeschooled as well, but she really enjoys the school she is in, and they have high academic, moral, and biblical standards, so for now that is still where she is. I know it is probably weird that I have one child in school and the rest at home, but that is what works for our family.

7. What is your number #1 homeschool resource? I’m considering homeschooling my youngest. –Rainbow Resources is a great company that compiles homeschool resources from everywhere and sells them in one spot. You can request a catalog, and it is bigger than the old school phone books used to be! In it there are reviews of the products as well, so you can get an idea of how something might work before you order it. I also really like Queen Homeschool Supply, which has many Charlotte Mason-style resources. It is a very gentle and fun way of learning, and I totally recommend giving it a try, especially if you are new to homeschooling.

8. Do you have a room set up as a classroom for your kids? If not, where do they go to school at in your home? I do have a room set-up for homeschooling. Our house is set up in a way that there are two living rooms, one right when you walk in the door, and the other one is on the other side of the kitchen. We use the back living room for schooling. That is where I have our shelves full of materials, games, and books, and the walls have our big pocket charts and posters. But we often end up doing a lot of stuff at the kitchen table. I hope to eventually get desks set up for each kid, but we don’t have that yet.

9. What is one thing that you have learned since you started blogging? For me it was all of the promotion that is involved to get my blog seen and noticed. –YES!!! I didn’t realize all the work it took to promote your blog! I have also learned a lot about social media and graphic design. I still have quite a bit to learn though!

10. What is your biggest perk so far that you have received since you started blogging? –All the friends I have made. I am in a couple blogging groups, and have really met some awesome people! And I have had a few people order essential oils from my blog as well, and have made really good friends with a couple of them. I also really like to write, so it has been a way for me to relieve stress. The writing part, not the promotion part! That part can be stressful :-)

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  • http://www.themadmommy.com/ Echo (The Mad Mommy)

    Great swap! I think the biggest perk that I have gotten from blogging is the friends as well! I definitely wouldn’t be doing as well, if it wasn’t for them! I think your advice to teen moms is great! It’s always important to have good friends and a support group or system!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thank you! Yes a support system is great for anyone and everyone to have!

  • Mary

    Great questions and answers! I love how the redemption of God intertwines throughout her story. Blessings!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thank you :-)

  • Terri Presser

    This is a great post and I appreciate you linking this up at Good Morning Mondays. I am thrilled also with all the friends I have made through blogging, it is such a blessing. xxx

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Friends are such a blessing! Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

  • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

    Hi Miranda,

    What a terrific swap! I was a teen Mom too, however that was 26 years ago… LOL But I had the same struggles that you did when it comes to feeling left out and wanting to run wild like all of my friends yet wanting to be a really good Mom at the same time. I missed out on soooo much of my teen years which on one hand I regret but on the other hand I wouldn’t trade being my son’s Mom for anything in the world. If given the chance to go back in time I’d do it all over again just a little differently in a few areas this time around! ;-)

    Wishing you a fabulous weekend!

    Much love,

    Lysa xx