What I Learned From My Drama Queen


I am the mother to a little girl who is 4 going on 5. Or maybe she is really going on 15 and I just missed the last 10 years somehow, because that is how it feels most days. Like I have a miniature teenager running around in my house. I love this little girl with all my heart but she sure can try my patience at times.

She is so dramatic. The slightest injury or insult quickly escalates into nuclear meltdown proportions.

It’s either 0 or 60 for her, there is no in between. She is constantly running on full-steam.

She is a little fashion diva, changing her outfits multiple times a day and having to have her hair a certain way. Plus she loves mommy’s make-up and “smell goods.”

Bossy would be an understatement. As would “control-freak.” Although I wouldn’t dare call her either one of those!

It probably doesn’t help that she is one of my middle children. Still, I think this is more her personality than her birth order, even though there may be some truth to the birth order line of thinking. She is so easy to love, so sweet and kind most of the time. Except when she’s not.

The other day I took her to swim lessons and while I was sitting there watching her I couldn’t help but notice the look of pure joy on her face as she was kicking her little feet in the water. She was trying so hard to please her instructor and was so happy to just be there, in the pool, at that moment. And then I realized that she has that look often. I just haven’t been seeing her. Truly seeing her. In that second I fell head over heels back in love with my little girl.

My dramatic girl that lives 100% in the present, enjoying every little detail of life to the fullest.

My girl, constantly on the go because she wants to experience all that life has to offer.

My fashion diva who always wants to make a statement, because after all, this moment is here and is of the utmost importance.

My bossy girl who takes life by the horns and holds nothing back.

I sat there on the sidelines of the pool that day, looking at my daughter like I had just met her. Why hadn’t I seen her in this light before? Why had I let the cares of this world stop me from loving my children just the way God made them, with all their little quirks and eccentricities? If I could live life the way my 4 year old lives life, I would be such a better person. Living in the moment instead of the past or the future. Savoring each experience instead of floating through life trying to check things off my list or stay on schedule. Being truly present with the people around me. This is what I learned that day from my sweet little girl. I hope and pray I never forget it. I also pray that she never loses that joy. That excitement for life.

After all, obedience can be learned. Self-control can be learned. But finding joy in life’s little moments. That’s harder. That is a gift. One I hope she carries with her forever and never lets go of. I’m so thankful God blessed our family with this joyful, dramatic, always on the go little girl.

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  • http://www.livinginretrospect.com Bobbie

    She sounds a lot like my six-year-old niece. She grew up with a teenage sister in the house, so she definitely acts more like a 16-year-old than a 6-year-old. She sure knows how to have fun though. Glad you had this wakeup call experience and were able to share it.

  • aprila

    days go by so fast and there is always something that needs to be done. It is nice to have special moments like that with your kids. They grow up way to fast. The best part of my day is when I see my kids happy and when they are giving me hugs and kisses.

  • http://www.pin-n-tell.com Jen @ Pin-n-Tell

    I LOVE this!

    ” Living in the moment instead of the past or the future. Savoring each experience instead of floating through life trying to check things off my list or stay on schedule. Being truly present with the people around me.”

    That is my prayer as well… My 5 year old and 2 year old are the same… full of drama and energy. I can learn a lot from them if I can just settle down and truly see them.


  • http://melissasaywhat.com Melissa M. Miller

    We can learn so much from our children! Your little girl reminds me of my friend’s daughter. She resembles her in appearance and sounds like she’s got the same vivacious personality. Her personality is admirable in the ways that you describe it! I’m glad you were able to take such valuable life lessons from her!

  • http://www.hollybarrett.org Holly Barrett

    Finding joy in the moment is harder but so worth it. Thanks for the reminder to be present and to make the most of every moment.

  • Amanda Love

    Sounds a lot like my 2 year old. These are so the best years though and before you know it she’ll be 15 and you’re wondering where the time went. Cherish the moment now.

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  • http://wholeheartedhome.com Judith

    You have seen a very important thing in your little girl. Blessings!!

  • Bree Courtney

    She is awesome! It is hard to live in the moment and see our children through God’s eyes….I mean sometimes it’s just hard enough keeping our eyes open, period.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thank you! And yes, definitely hard to keep my eyes open some days, lol! Thanks for commenting!