Handling Stress: Prayer and Essential Oils

Are you stressed out? Find out ways to cope with and manage your stress.

Every person has stress in their lives. Stress can be a good thing. It can motivate us to reach our goals, reach a deadline, and increase our overall productivity. But stress can also be extremely damaging to our health if it is allowed to get out of control. Stress can lead to cardiovascular problems such as high blood pressure and heart disease, and is also a contributor to obesity and diabetes (source).

Unfortunately, as mom’s,  bad stress can become so commonplace that it seems like it is just a fact of life. Whether you are a stay at home mom, work from home, or work outside the home doesn’t matter. Motherhood is extremely stressful. There are sleepless nights, messy houses, and screaming children on a daily basis. If we don’t learn how to control our stress, it can overwhelm us and suck the joy out of our lives. I’ve been there. It’s not a happy place for me, for my children, or my husband.

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I have found a few different methods of stress relief that have been working for me, and I would like to share them with you. These should work for you no matter if you are a mom or not, I am just speaking from my experience.

1) Prayer– This is a biggie for me. When I get stressed, my attitude is the first thing to take a nosedive. As soon as I feel myself getting all knotted up and snappy, my prayer is “Create in me a clean heart, O God,  and renew a right spirit within me.” (Psalm 51:10) Especially if I am busy, I will just stop what I am doing and ask God to help my spirit. This only takes a couple seconds and it does help! I also will often ask God in prayer to guide my steps and help me to figure out what to do. When I feel the need to complain, I will pour it all out to God, and usually within a couple minutes I feel better and my complaints don’t seem half as bad as they did before. I have found that if I take my complaints to God, I feel better, but if I take my complaints to my husband, we both end up feeling worse.

2) Recognize Your Stressors– What is causing you to be stressed? My biggest stressors are a dirty house and whiny children. If I wake up in the morning and there are dishes in the sink or laundry on the floor, my day is already off to a bad start. Since I know this, I can take a few minutes before bed to tidy up. This week we had revival meetings at our church every night, so I’m too tired by time I get home to focus much on the house. I can definitely tell the difference in my morning mood. As for whiny children, since I know this stresses me out so much, I have been working with my especially whiny one by having her use her words and talk in a sweet voice instead of getting overwhelmed and whiny. Children get stressed out too and need to learn coping skills.

3) Clean– This kind of goes with #2, because if I’m cleaning I am removing a major stressor. Plus the act of putting things in order and bringing beauty to my surroundings seems to put me in a better mood. I wasn’t always this way. I used to despise cleaning and would be in a bad mood the whole time. I have asked God so many times to help me to love to clean, and while I’m not there yet, I am learning to like it.

4) Get Active– Sometimes stress gets so built up that it needs an outlet. A brisk walk or a few jumping jacks helps to dissipate some of the stress and clears my mind, so I am better able to focus on what needs to be done.

5) Essential Oils– When essential oils are inhaled, they work directly with the limbic system of the brain, which activates memories and emotions. Have you ever smelled something, and it brought back a long forgotten memory from childhood? The smell triggered that memory in your brain. Essential oils work in much the same way. Some have the ability to calm and soothe, while others have the ability to focus and energize. When I am stressed out, my favorite oils to use are Stress Away (which totally works like it’s name implies), Frankincense, and Geranium. I just put a couple drops behind my ears and am usually feeling much calmer within minutes. I also like to diffuse Orange or Lemon, which are both uplifting and energizing scents, so when the house is a mess and I’ve got to get to it, these enable me to tackle the mess with a happy heart. You can find out more about essential oils here and here.

I hope some of these methods will work for you. Do you have any proven stress relievers you would like to share? I’d love to hear them in the comments.

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  • http://www.giveaways4mom.com/ Victoria H

    I always keep essential oils on hand because they help out with stress a lot.

  • http://wantedhero.com/ Jaime D. Buckley

    Yay–SO glad I got over here to say hello…and to read this article.

    Read it out loud to my sweetie, sitting behind me on the bed with our newborn–who is screaming.

    Stress? Yup.

    One of those, “I’m upset and I won’t be comforted,” sessions where we take turns holding and snuggling him, whispering that we love him until he calms down. Always works, but it unravels your nerves to be sure =)

    Kathilynn uses essential oils in many things, stress being one of them–but I was interested in your “Cleaning” releaser.

    I didn’t notice until last week that when I feel HUGE stress at work–I write fantasy books for kids…that cleaning my office puts my in a great mood.

    My mind feels less cluttered, ideas come more easily and I tend to open the blinds more–letting in more sunshine to the room and my own heart.

    Huh. Very cool.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Congratulations on your newborn! I have an 8 week old, so I am all too familiar with those all-out crying episodes. One of my friends gave me a video to watch called “The happiest baby on the block” and it was such a lifesaver! It’s not a long video, if you can find it I would definitely recommend it.
      I’m going to have to go back over to your blog soon and check out your children’s books. I’m always looking for good read aloud material.
      Glad that one of my suggestions could be a help to you. Thanks so much for popping by and saying hello!

  • http://reflectionsfromme.com/ Mackenzie Glanville

    I really like this post, I felt more calm just reading it.It is so important to recognise our stressors if we want to be able to move forward and clean our minds.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Good! I’m so glad it was a help to you!

  • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

    I don’t know how I’d survive if it weren’t for prayer and my essential oils! Stress away is one of my absolute FAVS as I use it every day along with a few others for my health. Terrific post!

    Thank you for sharing this post on the SHINE Blog Hop!

    Wishing you a fabulous weekend!

    Much love,
    Lysa xx
    Welcome to My Circus
    Co-host #SHINEbloghop 2/5

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thank you for hosting!

      • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

        It was my pleasure to do so!

  • http://angiesangle.com Angie Agerter

    What great tips. I stress myself out a lot and most of the time its things I have no control over personally.

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      I totally get it. It is so easy to let ourselves get worked up and worried about things. I hope some of these suggestions can help you.

  • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

    Thanks, have a great week as well!

  • http://www.scoopsofjoy.com/ Maureen @ScoopsofJoy

    I absolutely love this! While I don’t have essential oil with me at the moment but reading this feels really good. Thank you so much for sharing this, for joining us on Wellness Wednesday :)

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      I’m glad you enjoyed the post! Thanks for hosting, and the writing prompt!

  • Amanda Dunville

    Stress has been taking over my life lately with 2 kids I’m homeschooling, a 9 month old, and all the housework, laundry, plus my husband. Love the part about recognizing stressors….. guess who is making a cleaning list, and having the kids join in today? =)

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Girl you need some essential oils, lol! And I do think it is so important to recognize what is stressing us out, because if we don’t, we won’t be able to fix it. Have fun cleaning your house, I’m sure you will feel so much better when it is done :-)

  • thegoldenrulekids

    I love essential oils they are so great in helping deal with emotions!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      They definitely are!

  • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

    Yes, they are very good for that. Let me know if you ever want a sample :-)

  • http://www.FOBamerican.com/ Jessica

    Stress is definitely an issue in many of our lives. I’m so glad you shared these methods with all of us. I can definitely agree when we implement just a little bit or a lot from each method, we can live a less stressful life. So glad I was able to read this to remind myself to keep using these methods. Great post. :)

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I am glad this post was a help to you.

  • http://tuxandtiara.com/ Tux and Tiara

    If we may add to your good points, gratitude practice can be very helpful too.. In our opinion, if we do it properly and constantly, it will drive ourselves to calm down and positvely bring you too happiness.. 😉

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Very good point! Practicing gratitude is a great way to look beyond our own stresses and see all the blessings in our life. Thanks for sharing!

  • MrMrsKool

    Thank you, very well said and I love your go to Bible verse of which I am sure you have many more. Thanks for putting it into words for us.


    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Yes, I love that verse! It has been a lifeline to me many times. Thanks so much for stopping by.

  • Carrie Ann Tripp

    I need this reminder today. I e-mailed my husband during lunch today that I was overwhelmed and nearing tears, a panic attack, or both. I have been doing well with turning resignations to “extra” stuff in, but none of those resignations will take effect until the end of this school year. I’m in survival mode for the next few months of my busiest season. #BigTopBlogParty

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      I hope some of these suggestions can be a help to you in this season. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  • http://littleshackonthehill.blogspot.ca Little Shack on the Hill

    So much good info here, I’m going to have to re-read it a few times! Thanks so much for this!

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      No problem! I hope it can be a help to you.

  • http://www.jinglejanglejungle.net/ Mary Burris

    All great suggestions for handling stress. I like to take a step back and either take a nap or a nice hot bath.

    Thank you for linking up at Party Under The Big Top. Hope to see you again next week! #BigTopBlogParty

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Yes, taking a nap or a bath are also great stress relief techniques! Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

    Stopping by again to thank you for linking up with us at Party UndeBig Top

    Wishing you a fabulous week!

    Much love,

    Lysa xx
    Welcome to My Circus

    • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

      Thanks so much for hosting!

      • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

        No thanks needed, it is my pleasure!

        Are we still on for Ask Away Friday? I have half of my post put together and will be able to send you your questions this afternoon. Where did you want me to send them to? My email address is [email protected] welcometomycircus.com
        I’m really excited to be swapping questions with you and getting to know you better!

        Talk to you soon!

        Much love,

        Lysa xx
        Welcome to My Circus

        • https://rahabtoriches.com/ Miranda Gonzalez

          Yes! I just sent you an email.

          • http://www.welcometomycircus.com/ Lysa @ Welcome to My Circus

            Awesome I’ll go check it now!

  • Jennifer Abel

    thanks for lining up with #mum-bomonday. Stress is something I dont like so try to avoid it. Have agreat week!

  • Shauna Lynn

    Great ideas! Thanks!

  • http://www.mum-bo-jumbo.com Kelly Ninyette

    The world of today can certainly put a lot of pressure of people and it can become overwhelming. You have some great tips especially to recognise what your stressors are. What a fantastic idea to incorporate essential oils. I haven’t done this for awhile so this was a good reminder. Lavender is my favourite “calming” oil and I have noticed in the past this also has a calming effect on my son. Thanks for linking up at Mum-bo Monday!