Pain is a normal part of life. No matter who you are or where you are from, when you fall down it is going to hurt. If someone you love betrays you, it is going to hurt. Pain is not something we can escape from.
We live in a culture that is so intent on preventing pain that we do anything we can to avoid it. We self-medicate. We get prescriptions. We avoid emotional attachments at all costs. Whatever we can do to not have to hurt.
I would argue that pain is not something that we should spend our whole lives running from. We should embrace it. (No, I’m not saying go out and purposefully hurt yourself, that is foolish.)
Pain is an indication that something is not right. Pain can bring change and transformation that wouldn’t be able to happen if it was never felt at all.
For example, if you bang your leg on the coffee table, pain is an indication that you need to pay more attention to your surroundings and where you are going.
If a person in your life is causing you pain, that is a sign that you need to make some changes. Either cut that person out of your life or set up some boundaries.
Some pain may seem senseless at the time you are experiencing it. When I had my miscarriage a couple years ago, I didn’t understand why it had happened. It hurt to know that my baby died in my womb, the same womb that was supposed to be nurturing and protecting it. But now that I have moved past the grief, I can see that even that pain was purposeful. I understand now what it is like to lose a baby you never got to hold, and I can minister to other women going through that same heartache, because I have been there. If I had numbed that pain with medication, I never would have fully felt it and worked through it, and I would still be stuck in some stage of grief. I would be useless to any women that needed to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Some pain is necessary. Childbirth causes intense pain, but it is followed by such sweet joy. I am an advocate for natural childbirth. I had my last baby at home. Out of my 5 children, 3 of them have been born with no pain medication. I am thankful for those experiences. Never in my life have I felt stronger or more accomplished than after delivering my baby. Working through that pain showed me that I am stronger than I thought.
Pain should also drive us into the arms of God. When I have felt like I just couldn’t take it anymore, God was my rock and my comforter. He helped me through when I couldn’t help myself. If you are in pain of any sort right now, especially emotional pain, look to God. He loves you and will carry you through.
Medication has it’s place, and we should always be cautious when the situation calls for it. But living your life with the sole purpose of avoiding pain isn’t living at all.
Do you have any experiences of pain making you a better person? If so, leave a comment. And if you are a blogger and would like to guest post on this topic, fill out my contact form and I will get back to you.
*This post written as part of the Write or Die Wednesday writing prompts.*